After being born in a Muslim’s house, I always considered myself as a Muslim too. Whenever I learned the Ayah “Allah is never unjust in the least degree…”(4:40) I always had the feeling that those people who do not born in the house of a Muslim have some sort of disadvantage, and I was convinced that it is some sort of injustice from the Lord. A friend of mine told me that the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing be upon him) said, "No babe is born but upon Fitra (as a Muslim). It is his parents who make him a Jew or a Christian or a Polytheist." (Sahih Muslim, Book 033, Number 6426).
Since it is an authentic hadith, so I must not go against that. Even if this hadith means that every child is a Muslim, one has to embrace Islam by heart to persist as a Muslim after he reaches the adulthood.
When I started learning Quran and a very few Ahadith I started thinking about myself, my lifestyle and daily routine, I came to know that I completely misapprehended that I am or I was ever a Muslim. I was so wrong for my entire life. The path I was on to is against the given path of Islam. It was dreadful and shocking but unfortunately true as well that I am not a Muslim, not even in the slightest.
Following are few (and very few) of the Ayah and Ahadith which made me realized all that:
Abdullah b. Umar said that Rasulullah (peace and blessing be upon him) saw said: "The Muslim is he from whose tongue and hand a Muslim is safe…..” (Bukhari, Muslim)
As far as the fighting physically with someone is concerned, it never happened and even if I did, I was beaten up all the time. But the scars I have given to everyone through scolding and tongue-lashing shall never heal.
From Anas Rasulullah (peace and blessing be upon him) said: "By Him in whose hand is my soul, a servant (of Allah) does not believe (truly) until he likes for his brother what he likes for himself." (Bukhari, Muslim)
It never happened, good ones are for me, dejected and rejected ones are for the others. This simply is a rule to me.
In an authentic hadith related in Bukhari and Muslim, the Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) said:
"None of you believes until he loves me more than he loves his children, his parents, and all people." In another hadith in Bukhari he said: "None of you believes until he loves me more than he loves himself."
Isn’t the true love for the Prophet means whatever he has allowed; I shall take that and shall leave what he forbade. But I believe, good is something which is good to me; and the bad is something which is bad to me (a very well and self established theory).
Abu Zarr (ra) reported that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) said: No man accuses another man of being a sinner, or of being a kafir, but it reflects back on him if the other is not as he called him.'' (Bukhari)
I have done it many a times and issued fatwa even I wasn't sure.
“Who cheats us is not one of us.” [Muslim, Al-Iman (Faith); 164]
But for a prosperous life and a better future, I had to be a cheater.
“There are two characteristics that a believer does not have: Meanness and bad morals.” [Tirmidhi, Al-Birr (Virtue); 41]
Unfortunately I have both.
It is narrated on the authority of 'Abdullah (ra) that the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) observed: He who as in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of pride shall not enter Paradise. [ Rawah al-Muslim ]
If I have earned some good living standard through my hard work, why should I not feel proud? I surely have some skills which made me different from those who are living a miserable and poor life. So, with that; I shall not enter Paradise.
When ever I read the Ayah; Indeed, We have warned you of a near punishment on the Day when a man will observe what his hands have put forth and the disbeliever will say, "Oh, I wish that I were Dust!" (78:40) I always considered that I am that hapless person who would say it. But it’s better to say it now instead of saying on that Day.
I am still not completely disappointed from the blessing of my Lord. I will become a Muslim one day with the help of the Almighty. This advice of The Wise, The Merciful, The Magnificent, The Beneficent and the Benevolent kept me motivated all the time that “…and do not die except as Muslims” (3:102)
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